Talking The Confident Talk by Jed McCall
For those who don't have it, confidence is a very elusive subject to describe. Typical confident behaviour is seen as extroverted, outgoing, sociable and optimistic. However,the Electronic Age with computers, even those people who possess these characteristics may be a lot less confident than their appearance supposes. You may be surprised to know that many successful people, even celebrities, visit life coaches and hypnotherapy professionals to help them with confidence issues. These people may exhibit many of the behaviours we associate with confidence, but really are putting on an act.
Surely though if it sounds confident, acts confident, is perceived as confident, then it must be confident? Well, clearly this isn't the case, yet superficial confidence is a state of being that many aspire to. In order to understand confidence fully, we need to dig a little deeper, look at the real meaning behind true confidence and then attain it.
Although these things can certainly help, confidence is not something that arrives with a certain salary or social status,or they might act out their anger in unacceptable ways by raising their voice. All manner of people may possess confidence that others do not because it is a highly subjective process. If you are lacking in confidence, self assuredness is lacking somewhere.
Fortunately for you help is at hand. Over the years, experts have refined techniques that boost confidence and firm up your self conviction. There are a range of options out there such as cognitive behavioural therapy, Neurolinguisitic programming, hypnotherapy and life coaching to name but a few. Some of the more basic techniques you can use without the need to pay for an expensive therapist Of course, if your issues are severe, you should consider visiting an expert, particularly if your lack of confidence is causing depression.
One of the aforementioned techniques is known as 'visualisation' . Visualisation is a process whereby the mind 'rehearses' an event with the intention of replicating it in the real world. It is one of the easiest and most effective techniques to pick up and run with straight away.
Do you know anyone who you envy because they are calm, cool and confident. If so, 'borrow' their personality: Pretend that you have one of the positive attributes of this individual,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots. Then imagine the difference between the way you are feeling now and how you were before. Imagine the difference this new attribute would have in your life. This may sound a little silly and childish, but believe me when I say it can be very effective.
No matter how successful they are, people lacking in confidence tend to rubbish themselves repeatedly. This may take the form of false modesty, for instance rubbishing themselves, refusing to take credit for an event. If you are one of these people, you need to think about changing your internal script.
The internal script contains the lines your inner voice reads from. We all have that little voice inside of us, guiding us through the world, making sense of the events around us. But few people know that this voice is not as random as it may appear at first; in fact this voice is conditioned by past behaviours, habits.
If your inner voice is putting you down all the time rather than building you up, it is your inner critic. An inner critic is not concerned with anything other than to put you down, make you feel small, prevent you from developing your true potential. You need to turn your inner critic into an inner coach, a confident voice that guides you instead of criticizing all the time.
Hypnotherapy is one of the best techniques for reconditioning the inner critic. Many people have the old prejudice of hypnotherapy being about a funny man waving a watch in front of your eyes. Well, it ain't quite like that,Play a game with yourself over time and see how many entries you can accumulate. The success of modern hypnotherapy can be seen in the millions of people whose lives have been changed as a consequence of it. Put simply, hypnotherapy allows for accelerated reconditioning, undoing years of bad mental habits over the course of a few weeks, months.
A visit to a hypnotherapist or investment in a self help guide can have a major impact on your life. To have confidence, we need to feel empowered. From using the power of the mind, we can become so much more than we expected, more calm, less anxious, more confident.
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Monday, November 26, 2012
and found myself desperate
Karma by Johanna Courtleigh
We tend to think of Karma as some kind of luck. You've either got it bad,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots, or you've got it good. If you've got it good, the gods are smiling on you. If you've got it bad, you're at least a little bit cursed, and have to somehow pay or make up for the months or years or lifetimes of having 'blown it'. However unknown your infractions may be to you now.
I'd like to propose that Karma is not about what Happens to you. But that Karma is about how you Handle it. Karma is a state of mind. Therein lies our power to 'create our own reality', and meet what life hands us in a powerful stance of co-creation. By our actions and reactions, thoughts and feelings. It's easy to imagine oneself a victim when things aren't going the way we'd wish. "Bad karma!" we might mutter,you may discount the importance of what you have to say before you say it. But. Another versions of, "Bummer, man!" But, as they say, 'shit happens'. To all of us! And I believe karma is about how we perspective and meet and handle said 'shit'. If something happens that I don't like, I can label it (or me) bad, and bring the accompanying complaint and victimization to it. If something happens that I do like, I can think I've got it good.
But perhaps I can begin to step out of my thoughts about good and bad, right and wrong, and look at the potential learning in the situation. And imagine myself meeting that perceptually less-than-ideal human experience with an attitude of curiosity, openness and perhaps even gratitude as to what it's here to teach. Every moment is a potential turning point. What happens guides and shapes us. We cannot see the steps ahead. The ego's tendency--brilliantly named the 'Pain Body' by Eckhart Tolle--is to see what it doesn't want as wrong, and to inflict more suffering on itself. We're all very good at that: suffering over our suffering. Perhaps Karma is about alleviating our own suffering when 'shit happens'. And finding the potential goodness. Looking for the lesson,and they feel good. But what happens when the money is gone. Putting it in perspective.
Opening our arms to the universe and saying, "I don't know why this is occurring, but okay, thank you." I remember, many years ago now, thinking I was going to be moving into a certain place. I had made a special trip to see it again, and to meet with the property manager to sign the papers. When I arrived, he flippantly told me the place wasn't going to be ready on time for me to move in. No big deal to him . . . But I had movers coming. I had someone moving into the place I was vacating. I thought he and I had a deal. I thought I had a plan. I was basically being blown off, and found myself desperate, in a swirl of stress and angst and upset. I couldn't see myself as anything other than a victim. Now, with nowhere now to go . . . Bad karma, some would say. But that was just a moment in time. Fraught. But a moment, nonetheless.
What I didn't know, and couldn't see, was that something even better was waiting for me. And that that 'glitch', that moment of apparent bad karma, was guiding me toward the life and home I'm in now. A place of goodness and beauty I couldn't have imagined. Had that other place come through, every single detail in my life would be different today. The people I know. The clients I see. Everything. In Chinese, the symbol for 'crisis' is made up of two other symbols: "danger" and "opportunity."
Under stress, it's hard to see the opportunity in the crisis. To trust that there is an unfoldment that wants something even better than the ego can conceive of in the moment. That to me is about Karma. About meeting life from a place of openness, curiosity and neutrality, so that when things don't go the way we think we want them to, we can be receptive, and create Good Karma for ourselves by how we are meeting life, and treating ourselves and others in the process. This is an act of faith, surrender. Trusting in the unfoldment of our lives, however vague and disappointing that may seem at the time,I was afforded what continues to be one of my most humbling and thought provoking moments.. Opening our arms to life and saying, "I don't know why this is occurring, but okay, thank you." Creating our own good Karma, by trusting the flow of our own evolution, and letting go, and going with it.
Johanna Courtleigh, MA, LPC, CHT
We tend to think of Karma as some kind of luck. You've either got it bad,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots, or you've got it good. If you've got it good, the gods are smiling on you. If you've got it bad, you're at least a little bit cursed, and have to somehow pay or make up for the months or years or lifetimes of having 'blown it'. However unknown your infractions may be to you now.
I'd like to propose that Karma is not about what Happens to you. But that Karma is about how you Handle it. Karma is a state of mind. Therein lies our power to 'create our own reality', and meet what life hands us in a powerful stance of co-creation. By our actions and reactions, thoughts and feelings. It's easy to imagine oneself a victim when things aren't going the way we'd wish. "Bad karma!" we might mutter,you may discount the importance of what you have to say before you say it. But. Another versions of, "Bummer, man!" But, as they say, 'shit happens'. To all of us! And I believe karma is about how we perspective and meet and handle said 'shit'. If something happens that I don't like, I can label it (or me) bad, and bring the accompanying complaint and victimization to it. If something happens that I do like, I can think I've got it good.
But perhaps I can begin to step out of my thoughts about good and bad, right and wrong, and look at the potential learning in the situation. And imagine myself meeting that perceptually less-than-ideal human experience with an attitude of curiosity, openness and perhaps even gratitude as to what it's here to teach. Every moment is a potential turning point. What happens guides and shapes us. We cannot see the steps ahead. The ego's tendency--brilliantly named the 'Pain Body' by Eckhart Tolle--is to see what it doesn't want as wrong, and to inflict more suffering on itself. We're all very good at that: suffering over our suffering. Perhaps Karma is about alleviating our own suffering when 'shit happens'. And finding the potential goodness. Looking for the lesson,and they feel good. But what happens when the money is gone. Putting it in perspective.
Opening our arms to the universe and saying, "I don't know why this is occurring, but okay, thank you." I remember, many years ago now, thinking I was going to be moving into a certain place. I had made a special trip to see it again, and to meet with the property manager to sign the papers. When I arrived, he flippantly told me the place wasn't going to be ready on time for me to move in. No big deal to him . . . But I had movers coming. I had someone moving into the place I was vacating. I thought he and I had a deal. I thought I had a plan. I was basically being blown off, and found myself desperate, in a swirl of stress and angst and upset. I couldn't see myself as anything other than a victim. Now, with nowhere now to go . . . Bad karma, some would say. But that was just a moment in time. Fraught. But a moment, nonetheless.
What I didn't know, and couldn't see, was that something even better was waiting for me. And that that 'glitch', that moment of apparent bad karma, was guiding me toward the life and home I'm in now. A place of goodness and beauty I couldn't have imagined. Had that other place come through, every single detail in my life would be different today. The people I know. The clients I see. Everything. In Chinese, the symbol for 'crisis' is made up of two other symbols: "danger" and "opportunity."
Under stress, it's hard to see the opportunity in the crisis. To trust that there is an unfoldment that wants something even better than the ego can conceive of in the moment. That to me is about Karma. About meeting life from a place of openness, curiosity and neutrality, so that when things don't go the way we think we want them to, we can be receptive, and create Good Karma for ourselves by how we are meeting life, and treating ourselves and others in the process. This is an act of faith, surrender. Trusting in the unfoldment of our lives, however vague and disappointing that may seem at the time,I was afforded what continues to be one of my most humbling and thought provoking moments.. Opening our arms to life and saying, "I don't know why this is occurring, but okay, thank you." Creating our own good Karma, by trusting the flow of our own evolution, and letting go, and going with it.
Johanna Courtleigh, MA, LPC, CHT
Friday, November 23, 2012
when you understand the power of binaural beats this information becomes much more practical.
Binaural Beat Your Way To Happiness by Michael McGrath
Many people seek money in life and strive to get their desires by setting goals and making plans. Others feel that they need strong lasting relationships,this doesn't mean that you no longer need to learn speed reading. Consider this. In fact for every person on the planet there are different goals, aspirations and dreams. But what these people are seeking is not the money, relationship or goal fulfilment. Every one of us is seeking happiness and we believe that we will get this happiness through the attainment of our desires. If you are truthful with yourself you will see that it is not the thing itself that we want but the feeling that we believe the thing will give us - happiness,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots! But what if there was an easier way that could by-pass all that hard work?
Welcome to the world of binaural beats,There are quite a number of auction sites available for the purchase of subliminal products!
Feeling happy happens in the mind. We have all heard the old saying "one man's meat is another man's poison". This simple little statement really does encapsulate the difference between people in the world. One situation, event or thing can be a belessing to one person yet a curse to another. For example leaving in a one-bedroom apartment may be bad for an American family of 4 but for a family of 6 living on the streets of Calcutta it would be a blesing.
But, being human we all have certains things that are common to us all. One such thing is our brains. All human brains work the same way. Although we may hold different views and have different attitudes towards things in life and the world our brains work in very specific ways - ways that are generic to the entire human race.
By using this understanding scientists have created binaural beats which are a form of sound technology that can be used to train your brain to produce certain brainwaves which in turn produce chemical reactions in the brain that create specific emotions and mental and physical states.
For many years now scientists have been working to identify the brainwave patterns that are associated with many different emotional, mental and physical states. Scientists have identified almost all of these states and the brainwaves that are assosiated with them. In itself this is interesting but not very practical. However, when you understand the power of binaural beats this information becomes much more practical.
Knowing which brainwave patterns create which emotional states, from anger to love & happiness, it is possible to create these brainwave patterns by using binaural beats. Binaural beats can be used to create deep relaxation, aid restful sleep, produce more creative ideas, and retain more information and a multitude of other things. Are you aware that binaural beats can even be used to create the exact brainwave patterns that have been shown to release endorphins in the body to relax you and make you feel happy?
What's more if these binaural beats are used regularly for about 30 days the new brainwave patterns become a permanent feature for you,reviewing and adjusting your Profit Plan on an ongoing basis so you can continuously and consistently build towards wealth and mi1lionaire status. Now this is not to say you will be walking around happy all the time. The brainwave states associated with happiness that you have developed through the use of binaural beats just becomes a habit. So, just as you can get into the habit of feeling sad, or looking at the negative side of life, you can also get into the habit of feeling happy and looking for the positive in everything - all through the use if binaural beats!
To gain this increase in positive feelings in your life, through binaural beats, all you have to do is listen to some special sounds through stereo headphones and watch as your life begins to change!
Many people seek money in life and strive to get their desires by setting goals and making plans. Others feel that they need strong lasting relationships,this doesn't mean that you no longer need to learn speed reading. Consider this. In fact for every person on the planet there are different goals, aspirations and dreams. But what these people are seeking is not the money, relationship or goal fulfilment. Every one of us is seeking happiness and we believe that we will get this happiness through the attainment of our desires. If you are truthful with yourself you will see that it is not the thing itself that we want but the feeling that we believe the thing will give us - happiness,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots! But what if there was an easier way that could by-pass all that hard work?
Welcome to the world of binaural beats,There are quite a number of auction sites available for the purchase of subliminal products!
Feeling happy happens in the mind. We have all heard the old saying "one man's meat is another man's poison". This simple little statement really does encapsulate the difference between people in the world. One situation, event or thing can be a belessing to one person yet a curse to another. For example leaving in a one-bedroom apartment may be bad for an American family of 4 but for a family of 6 living on the streets of Calcutta it would be a blesing.
But, being human we all have certains things that are common to us all. One such thing is our brains. All human brains work the same way. Although we may hold different views and have different attitudes towards things in life and the world our brains work in very specific ways - ways that are generic to the entire human race.
By using this understanding scientists have created binaural beats which are a form of sound technology that can be used to train your brain to produce certain brainwaves which in turn produce chemical reactions in the brain that create specific emotions and mental and physical states.
For many years now scientists have been working to identify the brainwave patterns that are associated with many different emotional, mental and physical states. Scientists have identified almost all of these states and the brainwaves that are assosiated with them. In itself this is interesting but not very practical. However, when you understand the power of binaural beats this information becomes much more practical.
Knowing which brainwave patterns create which emotional states, from anger to love & happiness, it is possible to create these brainwave patterns by using binaural beats. Binaural beats can be used to create deep relaxation, aid restful sleep, produce more creative ideas, and retain more information and a multitude of other things. Are you aware that binaural beats can even be used to create the exact brainwave patterns that have been shown to release endorphins in the body to relax you and make you feel happy?
What's more if these binaural beats are used regularly for about 30 days the new brainwave patterns become a permanent feature for you,reviewing and adjusting your Profit Plan on an ongoing basis so you can continuously and consistently build towards wealth and mi1lionaire status. Now this is not to say you will be walking around happy all the time. The brainwave states associated with happiness that you have developed through the use of binaural beats just becomes a habit. So, just as you can get into the habit of feeling sad, or looking at the negative side of life, you can also get into the habit of feeling happy and looking for the positive in everything - all through the use if binaural beats!
To gain this increase in positive feelings in your life, through binaural beats, all you have to do is listen to some special sounds through stereo headphones and watch as your life begins to change!
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Ageless Principles of Success
Ageless Principles of Success(6)
The Principle of NOW:
Dear friend, have you ever wonder what time is? Once you truly understand the real meaning of time, you will never experience worry, anxiety and unhappiness again. Actually time is just an illusion.
"No matter how persistent the illusion of time is, the illusion of past, present, and future is still an illusion."
-------Einstein
Scientific study of quantum physics has already prove that the only moment that exist is NOW! There is no past, no future, there is only one moment, and that is the moment of NOW! The past and future is only the perception that exist in the human mind. What you think in the past or in the future is just an illusion in your mind. Now is the only time that exists.
The illusion of time makes us think that the moments of past, present and future separate from each other. In reality, they are all happening now. Everything happens NOW!. if you are not convinced by the concept of NOW, then try to do something yesterday or tomorrow right now. It is impossible. Think about it,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots, when do you remember your past? you remember it now. When do you dream your future, you dream it now. There is no any means that you can experience the past or the future, because they don't really exist, they are only a mental concept. When you think you are in your past or in your future, you are actually still in the moment of now. There is no separation of time, everything happens now!
If you truly live in the present moment of now, you will not have any problem at all. All the so called problems happens in your imaginary future. You experience them in your mind. If you fully concentrate on the present moment,Don't focus on your weaknesses, and handle what you are suppose to handle at the moment, you will never experience any problem. A wise seer says " I don't worry about the past, and I am not fearful of the future because my life is supremely concentrated in the present, and the right response comes to me, to every situation as it occurs." This is the timeless awareness. In timeless awareness, you don't experience fear, anxiety and worry. You are in flow. You are one with the source energy. One way to experience the timeless awareness is to choose to live in the present now. Watch your mind, observe it. Your mind will always tries to escape the present moment, because the only reference point it has is the past. You can simply observe it,Some people might assume OCD is simply being used as an excuse for not having to do certain things, the moment you realize your mind is escaping the present moment, you are actually in the present moment.
Since NOW is the only moment that exists, the question is why do I experience what I am experiencing now, but not anything else. The answer to that question is that you have chosen it. At this magic moment of now, there are infinite number of things happening, and you are free to choose to experience any one of them. You made your choice by sending out an command to the Universal Mind ( or call it Cosmic Mind, Infinite Intelligence, Source Energy or God.). Depending on your certainty and clarity, the Universal Mind brings to you exactly what you send out. At some point of this space-time continuum, you had sent out your command, the Universe took your instruction, and worked perfectly on it. That is exactly what you are experiencing now. At the moment of now,perhaps even streaks of genius, you have infinite number of choices, you can experience any one of them by sending out your instructions. The Universe will bring to you exactly what you want depending on your certainty and clarity. It is important to know that the universe takes all your instructions, good or bad, and work equally on them. It can not choose for you. You have to make your own choice with certainty and clarity. Once you make your choice, let the universe to handle the details.
How to put this principle into practice?
(1) Consistently monitor your mind. Keep it concentrate on the present moment of now.
(2) Anytime you find yourself worry about the future, remind yourself " Now is the only time that exists, the past and the future is just an illusion that exists in my mind. I choose to fully concentrate on the present moment of NOW!"
(3) Practice daily meditation. Experience the timeless awareness.
P.S. I learned most of the concepts in this article from a person I admire most Dr Robert Anthony. His revolutionary audio program "KNOW HOW TO BE RICH" is really life changing to me. This six hour program will stay with me for a life time. Every time I listen, I will learn something new, and my level of awareness will automatically increases. I highly recommend anyone who wish to live a better life and experience massive rich to check out this program.
To your success.
Song chengxiang
Copyright 2004 Song Chengxiang
The Principle of NOW:
Dear friend, have you ever wonder what time is? Once you truly understand the real meaning of time, you will never experience worry, anxiety and unhappiness again. Actually time is just an illusion.
"No matter how persistent the illusion of time is, the illusion of past, present, and future is still an illusion."
-------Einstein
Scientific study of quantum physics has already prove that the only moment that exist is NOW! There is no past, no future, there is only one moment, and that is the moment of NOW! The past and future is only the perception that exist in the human mind. What you think in the past or in the future is just an illusion in your mind. Now is the only time that exists.
The illusion of time makes us think that the moments of past, present and future separate from each other. In reality, they are all happening now. Everything happens NOW!. if you are not convinced by the concept of NOW, then try to do something yesterday or tomorrow right now. It is impossible. Think about it,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots, when do you remember your past? you remember it now. When do you dream your future, you dream it now. There is no any means that you can experience the past or the future, because they don't really exist, they are only a mental concept. When you think you are in your past or in your future, you are actually still in the moment of now. There is no separation of time, everything happens now!
If you truly live in the present moment of now, you will not have any problem at all. All the so called problems happens in your imaginary future. You experience them in your mind. If you fully concentrate on the present moment,Don't focus on your weaknesses, and handle what you are suppose to handle at the moment, you will never experience any problem. A wise seer says " I don't worry about the past, and I am not fearful of the future because my life is supremely concentrated in the present, and the right response comes to me, to every situation as it occurs." This is the timeless awareness. In timeless awareness, you don't experience fear, anxiety and worry. You are in flow. You are one with the source energy. One way to experience the timeless awareness is to choose to live in the present now. Watch your mind, observe it. Your mind will always tries to escape the present moment, because the only reference point it has is the past. You can simply observe it,Some people might assume OCD is simply being used as an excuse for not having to do certain things, the moment you realize your mind is escaping the present moment, you are actually in the present moment.
Since NOW is the only moment that exists, the question is why do I experience what I am experiencing now, but not anything else. The answer to that question is that you have chosen it. At this magic moment of now, there are infinite number of things happening, and you are free to choose to experience any one of them. You made your choice by sending out an command to the Universal Mind ( or call it Cosmic Mind, Infinite Intelligence, Source Energy or God.). Depending on your certainty and clarity, the Universal Mind brings to you exactly what you send out. At some point of this space-time continuum, you had sent out your command, the Universe took your instruction, and worked perfectly on it. That is exactly what you are experiencing now. At the moment of now,perhaps even streaks of genius, you have infinite number of choices, you can experience any one of them by sending out your instructions. The Universe will bring to you exactly what you want depending on your certainty and clarity. It is important to know that the universe takes all your instructions, good or bad, and work equally on them. It can not choose for you. You have to make your own choice with certainty and clarity. Once you make your choice, let the universe to handle the details.
How to put this principle into practice?
(1) Consistently monitor your mind. Keep it concentrate on the present moment of now.
(2) Anytime you find yourself worry about the future, remind yourself " Now is the only time that exists, the past and the future is just an illusion that exists in my mind. I choose to fully concentrate on the present moment of NOW!"
(3) Practice daily meditation. Experience the timeless awareness.
P.S. I learned most of the concepts in this article from a person I admire most Dr Robert Anthony. His revolutionary audio program "KNOW HOW TO BE RICH" is really life changing to me. This six hour program will stay with me for a life time. Every time I listen, I will learn something new, and my level of awareness will automatically increases. I highly recommend anyone who wish to live a better life and experience massive rich to check out this program.
To your success.
Song chengxiang
Copyright 2004 Song Chengxiang
Thursday, November 15, 2012
Strengths and weaknesses they bring to decision making
How to Make a Decision That Sticks Rather Than Gets You Stuck by Anne Warfield,crushing twisted metal
One of the most frustrating experiences we can all face is how to make effective decisions especially when you feel there is a lot of risk at stake. You wonder how much risk you should take on without putting yourself out on a limb or how much risk you share without looking like you are trying to pass accountability or be too cautious.
It is one of those situations that can make you feel like you are boiling in a pressure cooker that will explode as soon as the top is lifted off.
There are four distinct personality styles and they each approach decision making very differently. Because of this difference in style each personality style tends to cloud the decision making process with what is most important to them rather than what is most effective when making a decision.
THE FOUR STYLES: Strengths and weaknesses they bring to decision making
Connectors are very warm and friendly and usually hate conflict or pushy aggressive people. Most Connectors struggle with decision making and risk taking. The fear of messing up outweighs the desire to think logically.
If you are a Connector always make sure you have someone you can quickly run your ideas and thought process by BEFORE you present it to the final person. This will allow you to remove your caution and look at it more objectively.
Networkers are very gregarious and outgoing and have a tendency to look at the big picture while skipping over the details. Therefore, most Networkers will downplay or not seriously look at the risks that may happen. This often means they can get caught with too little information or unprepared to handle the consequences when something does go wrong.
If you are a Networker always make sure you run large decisions by another person and TELL them to ask you focused questions. This will help make sure you are prepared with EXACT answers before you share your decision with another person.
Producers are very bottom line oriented, abrupt and driven. Most Producers do a very good job of making effective decisions because it comes naturally to them to look at all risks, assume accountability, and offset any risks as best as possible. They usually have a slight gutsy side that allows them to take calculated risks after a relatively quick time of pondering them.
Analyzers are very exact, precise, and fact based. This means that most Analyzers will often become immobile when having to make decisions. They will tend to overlook at all the details and act too cautiously so they can be seen as constantly putting on the brakes rather than applying the gas.
If you are an Analyzer I recommend that you find someone and asking them to listen to your thought process on your decision and challenge you on details that you should let go of. You are looking for them to bump you up a level in how you view the situation.
FOUR STEPS THAT WORK: Regardless of what style you are the following steps will help you make more effective decisions.
1.Ask,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots, "If we do this, what is the worst thing that can happen?"
- How likely is it that will happen?
- If it does happen, how can you handle it or can you do anything that will reduce the chance or eliminate it from happening?
2.Ask, "If we don't do this, what is the worst thing that can happen?" a. Can you afford to let that happen? b. Is the risk to you here GREATER than the above risk
3.Put together your thoughts in a logical manner. Use a Ben Franklin Formula with columns laying out the risks, mind map, or graph the pros/cons.
4,Now to say.Decide which way you believe the company should go and why. Present it from that perspective. Share what risks you see with that choice as well as how you see they can be overcome or what chance there is that it will really happen and the CONSEQUENCES if it does happen.
Remember to try and come from your listener's perspective,Your Mindset Determines Your Life, not yours. The higher the executive level, the more that person is going to want straightforward information, bullet points and decisions from you. Know your details but don't flood them with them. Having them to back up and support what decision you made and why if you are challenged on it.
Remember that we all make mistakes. The most important thing is that you know when to jump and when to hold on so you can be most effective!
One of the most frustrating experiences we can all face is how to make effective decisions especially when you feel there is a lot of risk at stake. You wonder how much risk you should take on without putting yourself out on a limb or how much risk you share without looking like you are trying to pass accountability or be too cautious.
It is one of those situations that can make you feel like you are boiling in a pressure cooker that will explode as soon as the top is lifted off.
There are four distinct personality styles and they each approach decision making very differently. Because of this difference in style each personality style tends to cloud the decision making process with what is most important to them rather than what is most effective when making a decision.
THE FOUR STYLES: Strengths and weaknesses they bring to decision making
Connectors are very warm and friendly and usually hate conflict or pushy aggressive people. Most Connectors struggle with decision making and risk taking. The fear of messing up outweighs the desire to think logically.
If you are a Connector always make sure you have someone you can quickly run your ideas and thought process by BEFORE you present it to the final person. This will allow you to remove your caution and look at it more objectively.
Networkers are very gregarious and outgoing and have a tendency to look at the big picture while skipping over the details. Therefore, most Networkers will downplay or not seriously look at the risks that may happen. This often means they can get caught with too little information or unprepared to handle the consequences when something does go wrong.
If you are a Networker always make sure you run large decisions by another person and TELL them to ask you focused questions. This will help make sure you are prepared with EXACT answers before you share your decision with another person.
Producers are very bottom line oriented, abrupt and driven. Most Producers do a very good job of making effective decisions because it comes naturally to them to look at all risks, assume accountability, and offset any risks as best as possible. They usually have a slight gutsy side that allows them to take calculated risks after a relatively quick time of pondering them.
Analyzers are very exact, precise, and fact based. This means that most Analyzers will often become immobile when having to make decisions. They will tend to overlook at all the details and act too cautiously so they can be seen as constantly putting on the brakes rather than applying the gas.
If you are an Analyzer I recommend that you find someone and asking them to listen to your thought process on your decision and challenge you on details that you should let go of. You are looking for them to bump you up a level in how you view the situation.
FOUR STEPS THAT WORK: Regardless of what style you are the following steps will help you make more effective decisions.
1.Ask,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots, "If we do this, what is the worst thing that can happen?"
- How likely is it that will happen?
- If it does happen, how can you handle it or can you do anything that will reduce the chance or eliminate it from happening?
2.Ask, "If we don't do this, what is the worst thing that can happen?" a. Can you afford to let that happen? b. Is the risk to you here GREATER than the above risk
3.Put together your thoughts in a logical manner. Use a Ben Franklin Formula with columns laying out the risks, mind map, or graph the pros/cons.
4,Now to say.Decide which way you believe the company should go and why. Present it from that perspective. Share what risks you see with that choice as well as how you see they can be overcome or what chance there is that it will really happen and the CONSEQUENCES if it does happen.
Remember to try and come from your listener's perspective,Your Mindset Determines Your Life, not yours. The higher the executive level, the more that person is going to want straightforward information, bullet points and decisions from you. Know your details but don't flood them with them. Having them to back up and support what decision you made and why if you are challenged on it.
Remember that we all make mistakes. The most important thing is that you know when to jump and when to hold on so you can be most effective!
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
but he is entangled in a constricting family and church. Besides
A Christmas Wish
Direct Answers - Column for the week of December 22,large photos, 2003
My sister is a woman now beginning her thirties. She has had few friends and her boyfriends have never been good for her. Now she has finally found a man who adores her.
They had an affair nine years back, when he was twice her age and still married. My sister ended the affair, and he separated from his wife. When my sister contacted him this spring, he finalized the divorce and they became a couple. His marriage, which was arranged by his church, was never happy.
His parents and his children are upset he divorced. His children don't want to meet his new girlfriend, and he hasn't dared to tell his parents about her,No matter what you do. The other issue is children. She wants; he doesn't. I tell my sister they both know each other's stand on this and neither has the right to impose on the other, but neither of them wants to leave.
My whole family visited them on my sister's last birthday. It felt so nice to see them together and to see my sister get love and warmth at last. But to know at some point they will have a crash landing feels awful. She has a man who loves her, but he is entangled in a constricting family and church. Besides, there is a conflict of dreams between them.
What should I say to my sister? We try to get an equal relationship, but we are in such different circumstances,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots. I am married with two children, a professional with friends and all things that she wants. I cannot possibly tell her, after seeing their cozy home and how they care for each other, that this is another no-go.
Who am I to know? Maybe he will come around,Why not tell your subconscious mind some really positive things before you nod off to sleep, or maybe she will think he is more important than fulfilling her dream of children. Maybe I should just keep my "superior knowledge" to myself.
Noel
Noel, Charles Dickens' "A Christmas Carol" is one of our favorite stories, but this tale is so familiar most of us forget the moral. Even in our old age it is not too late to change. Even in our old age it is not too late to live the life which is our birthright. But we must want to change and then follow through.
In Dickens' tale Ebenezer Scrooge is visited by the ghost of his old business partner Jacob Marley. Marley warns Scrooge where the patterns of his life are taking him, and even though Marley wants Scrooge to change, he is powerless to make him change. Scrooge must go through a journey of discovery before he is ready.
You would like to play Jacob Marley for your sister, but even Marley couldn't change Scrooge. Three spirits had to show Scrooge his past, his present, and if he did not change, his dismal future. Until Scrooge made this journey he was not ready.
That is the wisdom of the story. We must examine the past for its lessons, search the present for its patterns, and project where those patterns will lead us in the future. If those patterns lead to sadness, they must be altered to lead us to fulfillment. As Scrooge says, "Men's courses will foreshadow certain ends, to which, if persevered in, they must lead. But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change."
Whether our life is a sad life, an abused life, or simply a flat life, we can use this simple story as a guide to breaking the patterns which lead to bad ends. You may possess the life you wish for your sister, but you do not have the power to give it to her. She will not change until she is ready. Keep your superior knowledge to yourself. If you wish to do something, give your sister a copy of "A Christmas Carol" and make a silent wish for her happiness.
Wayne & Tamara
Direct Answers - Column for the week of December 22,large photos, 2003
My sister is a woman now beginning her thirties. She has had few friends and her boyfriends have never been good for her. Now she has finally found a man who adores her.
They had an affair nine years back, when he was twice her age and still married. My sister ended the affair, and he separated from his wife. When my sister contacted him this spring, he finalized the divorce and they became a couple. His marriage, which was arranged by his church, was never happy.
His parents and his children are upset he divorced. His children don't want to meet his new girlfriend, and he hasn't dared to tell his parents about her,No matter what you do. The other issue is children. She wants; he doesn't. I tell my sister they both know each other's stand on this and neither has the right to impose on the other, but neither of them wants to leave.
My whole family visited them on my sister's last birthday. It felt so nice to see them together and to see my sister get love and warmth at last. But to know at some point they will have a crash landing feels awful. She has a man who loves her, but he is entangled in a constricting family and church. Besides, there is a conflict of dreams between them.
What should I say to my sister? We try to get an equal relationship, but we are in such different circumstances,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots. I am married with two children, a professional with friends and all things that she wants. I cannot possibly tell her, after seeing their cozy home and how they care for each other, that this is another no-go.
Who am I to know? Maybe he will come around,Why not tell your subconscious mind some really positive things before you nod off to sleep, or maybe she will think he is more important than fulfilling her dream of children. Maybe I should just keep my "superior knowledge" to myself.
Noel
Noel, Charles Dickens' "A Christmas Carol" is one of our favorite stories, but this tale is so familiar most of us forget the moral. Even in our old age it is not too late to change. Even in our old age it is not too late to live the life which is our birthright. But we must want to change and then follow through.
In Dickens' tale Ebenezer Scrooge is visited by the ghost of his old business partner Jacob Marley. Marley warns Scrooge where the patterns of his life are taking him, and even though Marley wants Scrooge to change, he is powerless to make him change. Scrooge must go through a journey of discovery before he is ready.
You would like to play Jacob Marley for your sister, but even Marley couldn't change Scrooge. Three spirits had to show Scrooge his past, his present, and if he did not change, his dismal future. Until Scrooge made this journey he was not ready.
That is the wisdom of the story. We must examine the past for its lessons, search the present for its patterns, and project where those patterns will lead us in the future. If those patterns lead to sadness, they must be altered to lead us to fulfillment. As Scrooge says, "Men's courses will foreshadow certain ends, to which, if persevered in, they must lead. But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change."
Whether our life is a sad life, an abused life, or simply a flat life, we can use this simple story as a guide to breaking the patterns which lead to bad ends. You may possess the life you wish for your sister, but you do not have the power to give it to her. She will not change until she is ready. Keep your superior knowledge to yourself. If you wish to do something, give your sister a copy of "A Christmas Carol" and make a silent wish for her happiness.
Wayne & Tamara
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Adult Education teacher
Comparing Professional Coaching and Therapy by David Steele
Professional Coaching is very different from therapy and any other helping profession. To promote your understanding of professional coaching here are some similarities and differences between coaching, therapy and other helping professions. Please note that these are generalities and are not meant to definitively cover every iteration and variation of coaching or therapy.
Let's start by looking at the similarities between coaching and therapy. Though this is not intended to be a complete list (because such a thing isn't possible), these are the basics.
Similarities between the role of a coach and that of a therapist include:
- An ongoing, confidential, one-to-one, fee-for-service, relationship
- Working with clients who want to change
- Assuming change only occurs over time
- Use of verbal dialogue as the primary service activity
- Regularly scheduled sessions
General Differences Between Coaching and Therapy
THERAPY assumes the client needs healing; COACHING assumes the client is whole.
THERAPY has its roots in medicine and psychiatry; COACHING has its roots in sports, business, and the personal growth movement.
THERAPY works with people to achieve self-understanding and emotional healing,and let the idea of powerfulness integrate into your life.; COACHING works to move people to a higher level of functioning,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots.
THERAPY focuses on feelings and past events; COACHING focuses on actions and the future.
THERAPY explores the root of problems; COACHING focuses on solving problems.
THERAPY works to bring the unconscious into consciousness,for better or worse.; COACHING works with the conscious mind.
THERAPY works for internal resolution of pain and to let go of old patterns; COACHING works for external solutions to overcome barriers, learn new skills and implement effective choices.
Comparing Five Types of Helping Professionals
1. THERAPISTS are licensed clinical professionals trained to diagnose and treat mental and emotional disorders, such as Marriage and Family Therapists, Licensed Clinical Social Workers, Psychologists, Licensed Professional Counselors, etc. They often bill medical insurance for their services. They take an expert role with the client in assessing the problem and prescribing solutions or interventions.
2. COUNSELORS provide guidance to help a person resolve social or personal problems in a specific area such as addictions, wellness, weight loss, etc. They take an expert role with the client in assessing the problem and prescribing solutions or interventions.
3. EDUCATORS teach or instruct a person or group for some particular purpose or occupation, such as a Family Life Educator, Adult Education teacher, and other various experts that teach classes. They are experts in their subject area and teach a specific curriculum that is expected to provide their students with the information needed to accomplish a personal or professional goal.
4,Because as I look back on the past years. CONSULTANTS are specialists who give expert advice or information to solve problems or optimize functioning to individuals or organizations. They are an expert who is expected to have the answers and solutions their clients need.
5. COACHES help their clients identify and achieve their goals, assuming the client is the expert on what they need and what would work for them. Coaches often specialize (Executive Coach, Relationship Coach, etc), however they do not prescribe solutions or give advice.
As you can see from the above five types of helping professionals, coaches are the only type that does not assume the role of expert. Giving advice isn't effective because knowing the answer or solution doesn't change anything. We usually know what we need to do, the hard part is doing it. Change isn't easy. Coaches assume the best answers come from within the client and that their job is to empower the client to determine what they want to do and support them into action to accomplish their goal.
Coaching is a highly effective way to help others to achieve their most important life, relationship, and business goals. Coaching is a natural fit for therapists who wish to expand their practice to work with more functional, private pay clients, as well as non-therapists who want to be of service to others but not as a licensed clinician.
Professional Coaching is very different from therapy and any other helping profession. To promote your understanding of professional coaching here are some similarities and differences between coaching, therapy and other helping professions. Please note that these are generalities and are not meant to definitively cover every iteration and variation of coaching or therapy.
Let's start by looking at the similarities between coaching and therapy. Though this is not intended to be a complete list (because such a thing isn't possible), these are the basics.
Similarities between the role of a coach and that of a therapist include:
- An ongoing, confidential, one-to-one, fee-for-service, relationship
- Working with clients who want to change
- Assuming change only occurs over time
- Use of verbal dialogue as the primary service activity
- Regularly scheduled sessions
General Differences Between Coaching and Therapy
THERAPY assumes the client needs healing; COACHING assumes the client is whole.
THERAPY has its roots in medicine and psychiatry; COACHING has its roots in sports, business, and the personal growth movement.
THERAPY works with people to achieve self-understanding and emotional healing,and let the idea of powerfulness integrate into your life.; COACHING works to move people to a higher level of functioning,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots.
THERAPY focuses on feelings and past events; COACHING focuses on actions and the future.
THERAPY explores the root of problems; COACHING focuses on solving problems.
THERAPY works to bring the unconscious into consciousness,for better or worse.; COACHING works with the conscious mind.
THERAPY works for internal resolution of pain and to let go of old patterns; COACHING works for external solutions to overcome barriers, learn new skills and implement effective choices.
Comparing Five Types of Helping Professionals
1. THERAPISTS are licensed clinical professionals trained to diagnose and treat mental and emotional disorders, such as Marriage and Family Therapists, Licensed Clinical Social Workers, Psychologists, Licensed Professional Counselors, etc. They often bill medical insurance for their services. They take an expert role with the client in assessing the problem and prescribing solutions or interventions.
2. COUNSELORS provide guidance to help a person resolve social or personal problems in a specific area such as addictions, wellness, weight loss, etc. They take an expert role with the client in assessing the problem and prescribing solutions or interventions.
3. EDUCATORS teach or instruct a person or group for some particular purpose or occupation, such as a Family Life Educator, Adult Education teacher, and other various experts that teach classes. They are experts in their subject area and teach a specific curriculum that is expected to provide their students with the information needed to accomplish a personal or professional goal.
4,Because as I look back on the past years. CONSULTANTS are specialists who give expert advice or information to solve problems or optimize functioning to individuals or organizations. They are an expert who is expected to have the answers and solutions their clients need.
5. COACHES help their clients identify and achieve their goals, assuming the client is the expert on what they need and what would work for them. Coaches often specialize (Executive Coach, Relationship Coach, etc), however they do not prescribe solutions or give advice.
As you can see from the above five types of helping professionals, coaches are the only type that does not assume the role of expert. Giving advice isn't effective because knowing the answer or solution doesn't change anything. We usually know what we need to do, the hard part is doing it. Change isn't easy. Coaches assume the best answers come from within the client and that their job is to empower the client to determine what they want to do and support them into action to accomplish their goal.
Coaching is a highly effective way to help others to achieve their most important life, relationship, and business goals. Coaching is a natural fit for therapists who wish to expand their practice to work with more functional, private pay clients, as well as non-therapists who want to be of service to others but not as a licensed clinician.
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